My Breastfeeding story.

Tonight I went to my first LLL meeting in this county. I had attended meetings while prego with the Beast in our other county. It was really fun and there were a lot of women there my age, which I'll eventually make friends with. Not always easy at first, especially when you're the new girl. TheBeast was the oldest baby there, and those 8 month old babes were bigger than her!! I don't know why I was surprised by this, but there was a baby boy there that weighed 23 pounds!! My Beast hasn't even hit 20 yet! But I'm digressing...
I told them briefly about my problems with breastfeeding the Beast, and thought that I would share with all of you my story. This may be a two-parter, depending on how long it is...not sure at this point, so if you have no interest in this topic at all, you may want to skip this and come back in a day or two :)

When I had SlowMo, breastfeeding was not an option. I was 18 and very immature. I thought it was disgusting, and didn't even attempt it, didn't even think about it in fact. I was still in this mindset when I found out I was pregnant with theBeast. At my first ob/gyn visit, our doctor asked us if we were going to breast or bottle feed. I said bottle, of course. She gave me information on the new formulas and told me that they now had DHA and ARA in them to aid in brain development. I thought that was great, they were now coming even further in the formula dept, and I would be giving my baby the best formula on the market.
We had these monthly game nights at church and one of my friends there is a lactation consultant. She asked me if I was going to breast or bottle feed. Odd question I thought, not something you are normally asked when someone finds out your pregnant. I told her bottle. She asked if I'd consider breast and I told her that breastfeeding was so gross and I wanted nothing to do with it (very mature, I know.). She dropped a book off at my house the next day entitled So That's What They're For by Janet Tamaro. I love to read, and the FantasyMan had been getting on me about this whole bottle feeding thing. He told me that breastfeeding was natural and the way God intended it. I read the book, and then came back with "well, I think I want to try breastfeeding." He was so excited he called my friend and told her I was thinking about it. I then started reading other materials on breastfeeding, and within that next month I was converted. I wasn't going to "try" breastfeeding, I was Going to breastfeed. For the rest of my pregnancy I read everything I could get my hands on about it. I was very knowledgeable about it.
A friend of mine gave birth 3 months before me, and I asked her if I could watch her latch her baby on. She was very secure and didn't mind at all. He latched on wonderfully and nursed like a champ. It looked so easy!! I was sure I could do it.
Before I went into labor, I had all my little papers filled out that said "Please don't give me a bottle, I'm practicing breastfeeding." and "Please don't give me a pacifier because I'm practicing breastfeeding and I might get confused." I was ready for these little messages to be put inside of the Beasts crib/cart thing. What are those things anyway??
I did everything the way I was supposed to during labor. No meds!! I had a completely natural labor so that she wouldn't have any drugs in her system and would be alert for breastfeeding. She was born very quickly after 4 pushes. The first time I attempted to latch her on was about 15 minutes after she was born. Nothing. She didn't open her mouth. I did what I was supposed to...rubbed her bottom lip, rubbed the side of her face. Nothing. She didn't open her mouth and didn't even turn her head. She was comforted by the breast, but just didn't attempt to nurse.
She got all worked up into a tizzy, so I stopped and gave her a break. The FM called my friend, the lactation consultant, and she was on her way. My other friend who had given birth 3 months earlier was there and tried everything she could. Nothing. Lactation friend arrived after I was moved into a regular room, and we tried again. Nothing. Tried several more times. Nothing.
That night around 7 pm one of the nurses came in and said that The Beast had not eaten all day, and really needed to eat something. She said that she had nursed both or her kids until they were 19 months old. Nothing. 2 more nurses called in. Cradle hold attempted. Nothing. Football hold attempted. Nothing. Several other positions attempted. Nothing. She just would not latch on. Finally after an hour and a half, and now a screaming baby, original nurse decides to check her sucking. She put her finger into theBeast's mouth and discovered that the Beast doesn't have a sucking reflex. She also doesn't have a routing reflex, which I had discovered in the delivery room.
Nurse suggested that we give her some sugar water, which I was totally against, but was too tired at this point to fight. We gave her some sugar water from a syringe.
Every two hours I attempted to latch her. Even through the night. Failing each time. We were able to go home the next day. I hate being in the hospital and never take the free day that you get. I want out of there, and as fast as I can please and thankyou. Before we went home though, a lactation consultant came in and said that she'd never seen a baby act like this in her 20 something years in the field. She said I was doing everything correctly...but that my baby was very confused and un-organized. She gave me her number to which I could call anytime day or night and she called me daily, she was very nice.

I think I'm going to stop here. Don't want to bore y'all too badly in one post! LOL. I do realize that it's Wednesday and I'm posting instead of WW. Honestly I'm kinda bored with WW and am running out of ideas. I will still do it occasionally, I just don't want to be tied down...sorry if you came here looking for a WW. Try back next week.

I'll post the second half of my story tomorrow!

Cheers!

25 comments:

The Flip Flop Mamma! said...

Wow! I didn't realize how long this actually was until I published it and came to check it out!! Sorry!

New Mama's Nest said...

I want to hear more ;) Hooray for LLL! Xavier and I went to our first 'toddler' meeting a couple weeks ago. I hadn't been exposed to bfing at ALL growing up and the older I got only had a few experiences with friends (no one in my family has nursed since formula was invented) and recently realized I hadn't seen anyone really seen anyone nurse a toddler! It was wonderfully encouraging -anywho, I'm babbling! Can't wait to hear part two!

Just Being Me said...

I didn't nurse my two kids (23 & 21 now). I was really sick after the birth of my first child and was so out of it. With my second child I thought about it but it wasn't that popular back then and he looked he would bite me. :)

Tracey said...

J, you know I nursed all 3 of mine for different lengths (5 months, 1 year, 14 months). I didn't have any problems with the latch, however... I'm afraid I won't be able to offer you any advice that anyone hasn't already told you a million times, but I will say that I understand what it is to want something so badly, and not be able to achieve it. Just remember with this next baby: YOU didn't FAIL at breastfeeding the Beast. It just didn't work out. That's all. I have a good feeling for the newest peanut. :)

Adventures In Babywearing said...

It breaks my heart to read how hard you tried... and I keep praying every day that this new baby is going to latch on and NEVER LET GO! Ha! Just kidding... he or she will be a nursing champ. You'll love it.

I was planning on doing another Mom Vs. Mom post regarding breastfeeding tomorrow... I might link you if you don't mind.

ACostlow said...

I am a breastfeeding mom of 2, I also have experience as a breastfeeding peer counselor with WIC. I am so glad to hear that you are going to try breastfeeding again. I know it can be rough at first and especially if you have already had one bad experience. I applaud you for wanting to try again, you are very brave. I wish you the best of luck, and I will keep you in my prayers.

Dee said...

Wow - I can't wait to hear the rest of the story --- and congrats on trying to nurse again. I nursed my oldest for 8 weeks (quit due to bad advice from a Dr. during a bout with mastitis) and my youngest until he was 2. I intend to nurse again! :)

Reese said...

I'm so excited you went to that meeting. :) you know I'm here. K?

Bluepaintred said...

i want to hear the rest of the story!
i thought breast feeding was gross, then i tried it with my first , mostly becuase my mother in law forced me too, and he lost three lbs in three weeks on breastmilk. considering he was only 6 lbs at birth this wasnt very good and he spent soem time inthe hospital. after t hat, i didnt even attempt breastfeeding with the last two!

Beck said...

That sounds like such a hard time! We have to make the best desicions that we can at the time with the resources we have, and it sounds like you did that. I hope everything works out with this baby!

Shash said...

I want to hear more, I was really getting into it. It wasn't long at all (it's only long if it's boring).

The first couple of week (with each) I wanted to quit, it hurt so much and felt wierd every time I "let down" but I'm thankful in the end I stuck with it and it went well. I've had friends that tried so hard and it didn't work. We're all different with different bodies and different babies.

DraMa said...

Great post! I am too whacked out on a million other things to post my own story... but good for you!

Lala's world said...

I loved that book, so that's what they are for! good for you for trying and I think it is great that you are writing it all out!

Glass Half Full said...

My boys approached nursing differently. Matt latched on immediately without a problem, but Mark needed time and I remember at each feeding it was frustrating getting him on for the first week. Eventually he got the hang of it, but I understand how it pains a mom's mind and body to keep trying and trying. Do not feel guilty about your past decisions! You did what you thought was right and that's ok. With your third try again and see what happens -- you may be surprised this time around!

Heidi said...

Wow, I want to hear more too. I was able to nurse my son but if I hadn't I would have tried and tried jsut like you and just thinking about it is really painful. Goodness that must have been difficult. I'm hoping that this baby will be an easy latch for ya!

Nikkie said...

I can't wait to read more. My little guy took to nursing with the help of a nipple shield from being a premie. We had our problems with it but it eventually worked out.

I'm so sorry that you had some problems with it early on. It really is so hard when you want to do something really bad and its just not working out.

Nicole said...

That was long, but very interesting. I am so sorry about all that. It sounds like you did EVERYTHING right. And that is all you can do, right? Go LLL!

O Mama Mia said...

Bring on the breastfeeding stories, even though I know how this one ends. ;) We all have our journeys & its awesome to hear them!
I loved our nursing journey & can't wait for the next one to begin.
I'll be praying for you, girl!

Jen said...

I look forward to tomorrows post..I breastfed Madison until she turned 1...and Miller until 13 months....I loved it...and wished more women would do it...all my friends didn't do it...thought it was gross...I have 2 friends who did it for a year...I think its what God wanted us to do. Cant wait until Thursday.

Jen said...

LLL are good
interesting post

Elizabeth said...

still thinking about you for #3. Love and hugs,

Hliza said...

In my case, I have always wanted breastfeeding but the hospitals here are not too concerned about it. But in a way, it's good too. When I first tried, my baby didn't latch at all like you for the whole day..so the nurses just feed him with bottle without consulting me. I thought..there goes my breastfeeding dreams. But at home about 2 days later, my mom encouraged me to try again since my breast was already swollen. At first the baby still refuse to latch..but after many times trying and not giving bottle..she sucked. So, I ended up feeding her till 1 1/2 year! So, never give up even after the first day.

Paula said...

Thank you for sharing your story. I had a hard time with my son. I am already praying it goes well with this baby.jsq

Peanut Butter and Jelly Boats said...

I also read everything I could before nursing my 1st baby. And I also thought it was pretty gross before babyhood actually became a reality. Nothing I read could actually have prepared me for it!

Kate said...

Wow-- we share a similar journey...from being young mamas (I was 20 with my first) to adventures in nursing those who followed (now three and six months...the latter, of course, is still latched on as I type:))....great blog, always nice to read the lives of those who are living green and God-- but not on the creepy ends of either spectrum:)